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In a previous column Masturbation is Self Love, I tackled men’s most commonly asked questions about masturbation. Female readers wrote in with their questions, and my answers are below:

1. I’m married and am a mother to a nine-year-old. I discovered self-loving in my early thirties and have been secretly indulging in it pretty often. I do look at pornography and even use a sex toy to make it more exciting. But after the euphoria fades, my desperate actions make me feel more ashamed. I know that there is nothing wrong with it, but how much of a good thing is too much? I've tried to stop but always end up doing it again.

Think of coverings that protect you from inclement weather – whether it’s a raincoat, umbrella, or jacket. Now think of sex. What do you think of?

That’s right. I am talking about condoms. The questions below are some of the most commonly asked questions I receive about one of the most common contraceptive methods – the prophylactic for males.

As the only certified sexologist and certified sexuality educator in Singapore, there is a wide array of sexuality questions I am asked. However, there are three questions that I continue to be asked, usually worded slightly differently, but the same ones again and again.

They involve a mysterious spot in a woman’s body, whether men have such a spot, and if women urinate during sex. Here are the answers:

Mention the word “Masturbation” and what do you think of? While masturbation means different things to different people, it is one of the most misunderstood subjects in the world, as it is enshrined in mystery and secrecy because of the simple reason we speak so little about it. Masturbation may evoke massive levels of guilt and shame, as many of us were told from when we were young not to touch ourselves “down there”.